Finding love is easier for some than others, but most everyone would agree that finding someone to love is easier than keeping that love alive. That’s why we provide love relationship advice at this website. Many things come naturally in life but figuring out the opposite sex just is not one of them.

For many of us the process of looking for love, usually in all the wrong places (yes, that’s a song!), consisted of cleaning up, putting on our nicest, newest, most fashionable clothes and heading out in a clean & polished car to some local night spots.

Despite the influence of an adult beverage or two, we would try to keep from putting our foot in our mouth, chewing with our mouth open or doing anything else that might disgust the opposite sex. (Note: girls are more easily disgusted with guys than the reverse!)

In short, we tried to make ourselves look better than we ordinarily were in the eyes of any prospective love interest. Other than that, we would kind of wing it. Love relationship advice is something we sought out only after being dumped or having something obvious tell us that there was a big problem with the relationship.

Making Your Relationship A Long Term Winner

After a while, though, age brings wisdom and you realize that you want to keep your love for long period of time. You know that he or she has gotten used to you and that being together was no longer an automatically magical experience.

That is when a relationship becomes a bit of work.

Several things can happen after you and your guy or girl have been together for a while (and none of these are good):

• You get used to the other person being there and doing things for you; you take them for granted.
• You no longer bother with how you look, (smell), or act when you are together.
• You stop doing nice things for them just because, and think more about yourself and keeping you happy – forgetting that you are happier when they are happy.

How can you over these negative factors?

One is to practice the golden rule. Do unto him/her as you would like her/him to do unto you. Always keep your tongue in check and speak kindly too them; apologize promptly when you screw up and snap at them.

Keep yourself neat and tidy, and make sure you do not leave a trail of destruction wherever you have been. Obey the house rules.

The things that are important vary from person to person and from men to women, but in general you probably get the drift.

Guys, clean up the bathroom when you are done and throw your undies in the hamper where they belong; don’t leave them on the floor.

Girls, that pony tail, sweats and no makeup look is alright sometimes, but he gets tired of that every day.

Sure, I know, some of you are thinking about how your missteps PALE in comparison to your mates. Love in a relationship:

• means overlooking your partners errors
• means not keeping score
• means being willing to be the first to change

This is all just general love relationship advice that really should apply to about everyone. Remember that when your mate is happy then you will be happier; happy people are more fun to be around. They also are more inclined to try to think of ways to put a smile on your face, too.

The best book of relationship advice and repair I have ever seen is the Magic of Making Up. I have studied a lot of material over the years and was just blown away by everything covering in this one resource. I suggest you pick up a copy and begin to enjoy the improvement in your marriage or relationship right away.

Relationships seem to come more naturally to girls than guys. And just like many men will not ask for directions until completely lost, many will not seek relationship advice until they are really in trouble, a break up is imminent or maybe until after they are dumped with no clue as to what happened.

The thing is, guys usually expect everything to just happen naturally in a relationship and do not expect to have to “work” at getting along with a girl. These guys are in for a rude shock and probably a break up or two. Let us hope they learn before they get married and suffer a subsequent divorce.

Women generally realize that they have to work at the relationship, although from a man’s point of view, a lot of the effort is skewed to making them happy. Whether true or not, it is typical for a man not to fully comprehend what his wife or girlfriend does do to try to make him happy, serve his needs emotionally and physically and generally enrich his life.

Men will do well to understand early an important piece of relationship advice; there are key ingredients to making a woman happy:

• Treat her with respect both for her person and for her ideas
• Show appreciation for the things she does for you
• Go out of your way to find a way to surprise her (pleasantly, of course)
• Open up to her about her feelings and your feelings; communicate on her level, not yours
• Continually seek to earn her trust by always being honest and open

Ignore this aspects of your relationship with your wife or girlfriend at your own peril, guys.

Pay attention to your gal, both what she says and what she does. If she does something for you where she really went to a lot of trouble you need to notice that and say so in an approving manner.

Now here can be a tough part: do so sincerely. A compliment that is not sincere she will see through! What do I mean? Here is an example that most men will encounter sooner or later.

Say she prepares a meal for you and you know it was a lot of work. It tastes terrible. What do you do? There are a couple of ways of handling it, but do NOT show your honesty by coming out and saying it. Emphasize how it looks extraordinary in display or complexity and you admire her for being able to do all the work and put it all together.

If she notices that you are not enjoying it, maybe she is not either; then perhaps you can ask if she is enjoying all of her hard work. But you can certainly find some way to build her up and thank her for working so hard to please you. Eventually she may admit it is bad and you never have to say it.

Tell her, then, that you would like to help her with the cleanup. Not only does it give you more time with her but you want to lighten her load after she spent so much effort with the preparation and serving of the meal. You never have to imply that you like the task, only that you enjoy making her life easier, if only in a small way.

What to do when you do need relationship advice

It is typical for guys to get together at the bar after work or even during work and talk about their wives and girlfriends. Often this leads to a gripe session. In the process of griping, three detrimental things happen:

1. What you say MAY be used against you if it gets back to your wife or girl (and it might, perhaps by someone trying to steal her from you!)
2. You will get down about the relationship yourself and justify feeling bad towards her, a negative spiral that can lead to unhappiness and break up.
3. The other guys will give you advice that “sounds” good in front of the boys, but will usually result in further arguments and trouble at home.

What you need is objective advice that will smooth things over now and lead to a healthier relationship long term. Your buddies may provide lines you can use to try to win the battle but you will ultimately lose the war and she will be gone.

Some of the best relationship advice for guys I can recommend is The Magic of Making Up by T.W.  (TDub) Jackson. Check out what he has to say and what other guys say about his advice by clicking here.

You will be glad you did – and she will be too!