Asking how to save your marriage is getting pretty common these days. Divorce rates are over 50% and I suppose that could be because very few parents provide any guidance to their children on how to select a marriage partner; probably because they were at a loss at the time themselves. So most of us had a bad start, so what, get over it, right? Actually, yes.

Past is prologue, as they say. Dwelling on the past is nothing but a recipe for unhappiness, discontent, even depression. One of the key themes I will be trying to get across here is that we have to look forward, be optimistic whenever possible, set a goal and then work to achieve it. Fortunately you do not have to do this all by yourself.

As I set about answering how to save your marriage, let me set the back drop just a bit. First, I will presume that the marriage you are trying to save is comprised of two people who loved each other at one time. Second, I will also presume that your wedding vows said something about “until death do us part”. Most people seem pretty quick to be willing to renege on that last one.

The leverage I am trying to gain with the part about the wedding vows is this: while I am not expecting two people to remain miserable all of their lives, I do think each person should be at least willing to exert some effort to repair your marriage before just giving up and throwing in the towel. And if there is physical abuse involved then I highly suggest putting enough distance between you to protect yourself. Sound fair?

Perhaps you can use that to help convince your spouse to at least listen to you if nothing else. Because there really is not that much we can do with just one of you. We need both of you to eventually sign on to the goal of saving your marriage and avoiding it ending up in a divorce.

So how do we start?

First, let’s make sure you understand that no marriage is ever going to be perfect. Anyone that spends much time watching American TV, especially soap operas, or movies is in severe danger of getting a warped idea of life in general and marriage in particular. Between the unrealistic exploitation of sex in almost all programming today and the perfect harmony of “Leave it to Beaver” of yesterday, the mind is overwhelmed with a lack of reality.

There are going to be ups and downs, good times and bad. That was probably in your wedding vows somewhere too, but we tend to want to put unpleasant things out of our minds or conveniently forget them.

Second, a successful marriage requires work! Few people go into a marriage realizing that. Is it bad that a marriage requires work? No, not at all. Actually, most anything in life of any value requires work in some way, other than maybe enjoying a sunrise, and for some people that might be work, too.

And the work of making a successful marriage requires effort from both spouses, somewhat in equal amounts usually. If the two of you really do love each other, you will enjoy the benefits of that work which should result in happiness for your spouse and that should bring happiness to you, too.

Third, sometimes you just need to forgive and forget. I know, somethings your spouse will do will seem unforgivable, they will refuse to acknowledge their guilt or the effect of what they have done and your brain will scream that it just isn’t fair. You know what? You’re right, it isn’t fair. But chances are there will be a little of that on both sides.

What I do know is that if you insist on keeping score throughout your marriage that you are seriously courting disaster for your marriage and unhappiness for yourself. Sometimes you just have to let the past go and move forward. Forgive them for what they have done in the same way you want to be forgiven for what you have done to them, either knowingly or unknowingly.

Fourth, you need to be able to communicate. When you were dating, talking came naturally and after a while you probably let your “shields” down. Unfortunately, little hurts here and there, a breakdown in the trust element of the marriage and the shields start sliding back into place.

Repairing your marriage is going to require that those shields come down again, but no one is going to expect that to happen overnight. We can get you some help in opening up to your spouse and getting him or her to open up to you. Be patient for now. Learning how to save your marriage is a bit more complex than we wish it were, but hang in there.

Fifth, try to out give your spouse. What do I mean by that? Well, it is an extension of the advice to not keep score; except you will keep score, sort of. OK, I’m not really trying to confuse you, just make a point. When you try to do something for your spouse, something that they do not deserve but you just want to do it because you love them, try to do so much for them in such an unselfish way that if someone really were keeping score, you would win.

Think about that for a minute. What if you both did that? Kinda cool, huh? You end up in a spiral of good, going up you might say, instead of a spiral of down – heading to divorce, when people play the fight fire with fire game instead. This can be very powerful.

But what if my partner does not cooperate?

Yes, this is a tough one. Back to the “it’s not fair” message that keeps running through our heads. If you really want to know how to save your marriage, here is a key secret:

Be willing to be the first to change

That is hard to do. You are doing everything right, being unselfish and your spouse is not reciprocating. In all honesty, that is how it might be for awhile, but you are committed to saving your marriage, aren’t you? Keep your eye on the prize – a healthy, happy marriage for both of you – and don’t give up. If your spouse ever did love you, the effects of you doing these things will eventually chip away the ice around their heart and they will join you in putting your marriage back together.

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In today’s fast paced world with seemingly infinite demands on our limited time and energy it is no wonder our relationships suffer making break up and divorce so common. So I want to give some basic advice for how to save a relationship or maybe in your case it is actually a marriage you are trying to save.

Now every relationship is different so maybe not each of these things apply directly to you but think about it in more general terms and I bet you can apply them to your situation regardless. And I will try to cover some things that apply more toward the guys and others that apply more toward the gals in the relationship.

The first point I want to make is some cliches, I guess I will call them, that I do not recommend for how to save a relationship – at least not in the long term.

What not to do to save a relationship

For guys, one of the first things that comes to mind when the marriage is in trouble or the girlfriend hints at breaking up is to run out and buy flowers. Guys used to buy candy too, but if the gal is weight conscious at all she might actually resent that.

Now who could think that buying flowers could backfire? It can, and here is how and it’s pretty simple. You have bought flowers before when things got a little dicey and she thinks this time you are just out for a quick, easy way to fix the relationship by spending a few bucks (no matter how hard it might be to earn those bucks).

She knows that the flowers only last a few days and then everything is back to the way it was before. She isn’t going to be fooled this time, and may even throw the flowers back in your face! Buying flowers does indicate a commitment to the relationship.

Now for the gals, some of you will try to fix things up by fixing a favorite meal and topping it off with you for dessert. Well, most guys would be quite happy to that kind of a quick fix more often, and they might not throw it back in your face, but they too know that in a day or so, everything is back to the way it was – heading downhill.

We have talked about what not to do, so here is what to do

People in a long term, loving relationship really want to know that their spouse or partner not only loves them, but actually respects him or her and makes them and the relationship a priority in life. When I say a priority, I do not mean that you are on his or her top list of 5 or 10 things, and you do not want to fall beneath a job or hobby.

Believe me, I know that you want to put a roof over girl’s head, make sure she (and you) have food to eat and all of that takes money; more money every year. And money seems to get harder and harder to get. So isn’t putting your job at #1 really, in a way, putting your partner at #1?

My answer is: “how’s that workin’ for ya?”

Probably not too well.

Now, if you are a gal in a traditional situation where the guy is the primary breadwinner, think about that for a minute. Are you asking him to make you #1 ahead of his job, but at the same time living a lifestyle with a lot of high dollar expectations? If so, that is a recipe for disaster, break up or divorce. He will, over time, resent you.

Many relationships these days are not traditional in that way, so again, you may have to extrapolate that scenario to fit your situation, but do you see what I mean?

Maybe a less demanding, and lower paying, job would leave more time and energy for the relationship. Could you downsize your lifestyle a little bit to make that happen? You could both end up being happier in the end.

How about another traditional example. I know a lot of woman who are die hard football fans, but that is not always the case. Many women feel like sports widows. It used to be the woman was neglected during a few months when the guys favorite sport was on; but now with longer seasons, more sports channels and more places to keep up with stats and scores, some woman feel alone all year long.

Perhaps you were a football star in high school, maybe even college, and the sport is in your blood. Is it so important to you that your relationship or marriage is #2? If so, tell your partner that and let her decide if that is the way she wants to spend the rest of her life and act accordingly. But if you want to know how to save a relationship, then turn off the TV.

Many woman would only accept a #2 position like that if they feel they have no options. If you are in that predicament, my advice would be to work on improving your options (work out, lose weight, get more education) while he is watching his favorite game. Perhaps he is shoving you into #2 position on his priority list simply because he thinks he can; show him otherwise.

It is all about respect and admiration

Hopefully you are getting the understanding that a healthy relationship is all about respect and admiration. When you respect and admire someone you treat them differently than when you don’t. To treat someone well you will:

• Be kind and courteous to them in speech and actions
• Recognize their value as a person
• Respect their ideas and what they say
• Show respect for their time
• Honor them, not “diss” them in front of your friends

When you treat someone with these things in mind, it makes it easy for them to like you, it almost demands that they treat you in similar fashion and will remove all roadblocks for them to love you. And that is what you want, isn’t it?

Make your relationship and the person you share it with a priority in your life; and yes, that means something else will get pushed aside. But do you really want your job in your life until the day you die? Are your favorite players still going to be on your favorite team until you die? Is that mall even going to still be standing on the day you die? My answer to all three is “I hope not”.

What you do want is your spouse or partner to still be in love with you and at your side until the day one of you dies.

Show them that is the way you feel.

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Trust is critical for establishing and maintaining a healthy, successful relationship. While most will agree with that statement, many marriages and relationships fail because neither person took the time to build trust in a relationship.

So many other things come to mind first, like being romantic, keeping the spice in the marriage, “dull” prevention, you name it. The truth is that people do not really connect without trusting each other; and, most women will not sleep with someone they do not trust (there’s a hint, guys!).

While it will always be popular to surprise your lover with candy (both sexes), flowers (mostly women), tickets to that concert, or a new restaurant to try, put just as much effort into making sure you are a trustworthy companion and mate.

Here are 7 ways you can succeed to build trust in a relationship:

1. Be predictable. I mean that from a standpoint of being reliable from day to day. You can still be unpredictable in what music you are in the mood for, what clothes you wear or what gifts you give, but always show up on time and be known for being “reliable”.
2. Say what you mean. Make sure you are not giving one message with your mouth and a different one with your body language. Saying you love someone but being “cold” to the touch or saying you are happy when your face and body language clearly state you are not will give your partner an uneasiness towards you and question both what you do and what you say.
3. Believe in your partner. Trust is mutual, and if you do not have a basic faith in your partner that he or she is competent in the things they do at work or at home then you cannot be supportive (honestly) and they will perceive a lack of trust. This makes it difficult for them to reciprocate trust to you.
4. Do not be secretive. Sometimes you need to be secretive to pull off a surprise party or a gift, but try not to show it, and do not extend it for a long period of time. If your partner becomes uncomfortably suspicious the relationship may sour before you ever get to the joy of the surprise; which will be muted at that.
5. Communicate your needs. Do not strive to be selfish or high maintenance, but do not make your partner guess what you want and need. At the same time, make sure you inquire of your spouse or partner what their needs are, both emotionally and physically.
6. Learn to say no. You want to meet his or her needs and help them in most any way you can. What you do not want to do is become a slave or feel like you are subservient to him or her – like a doormat. Saying “no” once in a while, where appropriate, actually builds your partners respect of you and will help build trust in the relationship.
7. Seek to grow your relationship, not just preserve it. Sometimes this results in a little friction that is resolved with some turmoil or mini crisis. Do not be afraid of some conflict in the relationship, just make sure you seek to resolve it calmly, promptly and in a mutually beneficial manner.

Successful, happy marriages and relationships are work for both of you. When you proactively seek to build trust in a relationship that work will pay dividends for years and years to come, bringing both of you greater happiness and fulfillment.

Some pain is to be expected, but working through it will make both of you and your relationship all that much stronger.

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Finding love is easier for some than others, but most everyone would agree that finding someone to love is easier than keeping that love alive. That’s why we provide love relationship advice at this website. Many things come naturally in life but figuring out the opposite sex just is not one of them.

For many of us the process of looking for love, usually in all the wrong places (yes, that’s a song!), consisted of cleaning up, putting on our nicest, newest, most fashionable clothes and heading out in a clean & polished car to some local night spots.

Despite the influence of an adult beverage or two, we would try to keep from putting our foot in our mouth, chewing with our mouth open or doing anything else that might disgust the opposite sex. (Note: girls are more easily disgusted with guys than the reverse!)

In short, we tried to make ourselves look better than we ordinarily were in the eyes of any prospective love interest. Other than that, we would kind of wing it. Love relationship advice is something we sought out only after being dumped or having something obvious tell us that there was a big problem with the relationship.

Making Your Relationship A Long Term Winner

After a while, though, age brings wisdom and you realize that you want to keep your love for long period of time. You know that he or she has gotten used to you and that being together was no longer an automatically magical experience.

That is when a relationship becomes a bit of work.

Several things can happen after you and your guy or girl have been together for a while (and none of these are good):

• You get used to the other person being there and doing things for you; you take them for granted.
• You no longer bother with how you look, (smell), or act when you are together.
• You stop doing nice things for them just because, and think more about yourself and keeping you happy – forgetting that you are happier when they are happy.

How can you over these negative factors?

One is to practice the golden rule. Do unto him/her as you would like her/him to do unto you. Always keep your tongue in check and speak kindly too them; apologize promptly when you screw up and snap at them.

Keep yourself neat and tidy, and make sure you do not leave a trail of destruction wherever you have been. Obey the house rules.

The things that are important vary from person to person and from men to women, but in general you probably get the drift.

Guys, clean up the bathroom when you are done and throw your undies in the hamper where they belong; don’t leave them on the floor.

Girls, that pony tail, sweats and no makeup look is alright sometimes, but he gets tired of that every day.

Sure, I know, some of you are thinking about how your missteps PALE in comparison to your mates. Love in a relationship:

• means overlooking your partners errors
• means not keeping score
• means being willing to be the first to change

This is all just general love relationship advice that really should apply to about everyone. Remember that when your mate is happy then you will be happier; happy people are more fun to be around. They also are more inclined to try to think of ways to put a smile on your face, too.

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If you are one of those women who are in a relationship but you feel unloved or have had your boyfriend or husband break up with you, then take heart, this is for you. You still love him and want to know how to make him fall in love with me again.

There can be a lot of reasons why your guy does not love you anymore; in fact, he may love you but just does not show it. Has he left you yet? If not, there is a good chance that – unless you are just making life too good for him – he is staying because he does still love you.

Start by evaluating your relationship with him. Is your love for him real or are you just scared of the alternative? Make sure you are asking how to make him fall in love with me again for the right, long term reasons. Fixing short term problems in our lives feels good for a while, but hurts more in the long run.

Your goal should be a healthy relationship based on mutual love, respect and admiration. If you have all of that for him, then let’s move forward and reignite his love for you.

How has your behavior been so far? Have you been begging, pleading, nagging at him to love you? I hope not, but if you have, that needs to stop right away. Even step back from the situation a little bit and let things cool off. If you are married, I am not saying to leave at all, but just make sure you give him some space and do not aggravate him further.

How to Make Him Fall In Love With Me Again

Is there anything in particular that you know of that could have put a dent in the relationship or somehow cooled his love for you? Did you have an affair, change your appearance, do something to anger him?

Often times there is no one set reason that causes a man’s love to fade for his wife or girlfriend. It is pretty common for people to just get used to things over time and forget to have and to show appreciation for what is most important in their lives – sometimes even loved ones.

Initially there was probably a strong physical attraction that quite naturally loses its draw over time. Boredom sets in even with a Ferrari, so you do not have to take it personally. But it does require extra effort in the relationship to keep the spark alive.

As you go through this process you want to make sure that you are taking care of yourself. You need to eat right, exercise and even do little things for yourself so that your energy levels are high, you do not slip into depression and that you are able to put a smile on your face each day.

Happy, positive people are enjoyable to be around. Everyone wants to be surrounded by people that pull them up and not drag them down. Even in the midst of life’s most complicated problems you want to do your best to look on the bright side, count your blessings and find something to smile about.

Keep moving forward with your own life, too. Take every opportunity to show affection and care for your man but do not have him thinking that you are just there as a doormat, waiting to serve him or waiting for him to make your life better. We are each responsible for our own happiness, do not be waiting for him to provide that for you.

Go Back to The Start

Think back about when you two first got together. What types of things were you attracted to and vice versa – what attracted him to you? If some of those things are not evident anymore, can they be resurrected? Maybe a sense of humor that has been crushed by the troubles of life.

Everyone “does” more things when first dating, and usually that is an expense of time and money that can not be carried on indefinitely. But are there some activities that you always used to love to do together that you have not done in a while?

Perhaps if you cannot do some of those things you could bring it up in conversation or bring out some photos of you two in those happy times. Remind your guy of the good times you had together and indicate your willingness to have good times once again.

You want to make sure you are taking care of his needs physically and emotionally, just without the appearance of a slave. Yet at the same time do not ignore yourself and your needs. Be the person you need to be and that should remind him of the reasons he fell in love with you.

Maintain your appearance like you did when first dating. There are times for grunge clothes, sweats, no makeup and rollers, but make sure you do all you can with your physical appearance often enough to keep him looking at you.

The additional benefit of this is that you will feel better about yourself and project a more positive image to everyone around you. You may be surprised at how much better you are treated not only at home but at work or even running errands.

This is not the entire story, by a long shot, but it should get you started and give you even more to think about.

If you are really serious about finding out “how to make him fall in love with me again“, then I highly recommend you take a look at a great resource. It’s called the Magic of Making Up and it has now sold over 50,000 copies and helped women like you the world over.

It can change your life, save your marriage or get your boyfriend back. I highly recommend it.

Relationships seem to come more naturally to girls than guys. And just like many men will not ask for directions until completely lost, many will not seek relationship advice until they are really in trouble, a break up is imminent or maybe until after they are dumped with no clue as to what happened.

The thing is, guys usually expect everything to just happen naturally in a relationship and do not expect to have to “work” at getting along with a girl. These guys are in for a rude shock and probably a break up or two. Let us hope they learn before they get married and suffer a subsequent divorce.

Women generally realize that they have to work at the relationship, although from a man’s point of view, a lot of the effort is skewed to making them happy. Whether true or not, it is typical for a man not to fully comprehend what his wife or girlfriend does do to try to make him happy, serve his needs emotionally and physically and generally enrich his life.

Men will do well to understand early an important piece of relationship advice; there are key ingredients to making a woman happy:

• Treat her with respect both for her person and for her ideas
• Show appreciation for the things she does for you
• Go out of your way to find a way to surprise her (pleasantly, of course)
• Open up to her about her feelings and your feelings; communicate on her level, not yours
• Continually seek to earn her trust by always being honest and open

Ignore this aspects of your relationship with your wife or girlfriend at your own peril, guys.

Pay attention to your gal, both what she says and what she does. If she does something for you where she really went to a lot of trouble you need to notice that and say so in an approving manner.

Now here can be a tough part: do so sincerely. A compliment that is not sincere she will see through! What do I mean? Here is an example that most men will encounter sooner or later.

Say she prepares a meal for you and you know it was a lot of work. It tastes terrible. What do you do? There are a couple of ways of handling it, but do NOT show your honesty by coming out and saying it. Emphasize how it looks extraordinary in display or complexity and you admire her for being able to do all the work and put it all together.

If she notices that you are not enjoying it, maybe she is not either; then perhaps you can ask if she is enjoying all of her hard work. But you can certainly find some way to build her up and thank her for working so hard to please you. Eventually she may admit it is bad and you never have to say it.

Tell her, then, that you would like to help her with the cleanup. Not only does it give you more time with her but you want to lighten her load after she spent so much effort with the preparation and serving of the meal. You never have to imply that you like the task, only that you enjoy making her life easier, if only in a small way.

What to do when you do need relationship advice

It is typical for guys to get together at the bar after work or even during work and talk about their wives and girlfriends. Often this leads to a gripe session. In the process of griping, three detrimental things happen:

1. What you say MAY be used against you if it gets back to your wife or girl (and it might, perhaps by someone trying to steal her from you!)
2. You will get down about the relationship yourself and justify feeling bad towards her, a negative spiral that can lead to unhappiness and break up.
3. The other guys will give you advice that “sounds” good in front of the boys, but will usually result in further arguments and trouble at home.

What you need is objective advice that will smooth things over now and lead to a healthier relationship long term. Your buddies may provide lines you can use to try to win the battle but you will ultimately lose the war and she will be gone.

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You will be glad you did – and she will be too!

Getting your ex back after a break up or divorce is goal accomplished through a series of steps, not just an afternoon adventure. Presuming that you did not initiate the break up in the first place, you are probably going to start with some soul searching.

Be totally honest with yourself. Is getting back together with your ex really going to make you happy or are you just lonely? You want to make sure that this specific person is what you really need and want. There is no sense winning them back only to end up down the same unhappy road to break up.

Break up and divorce seldom affect both parties equally. There were probably good times and bad times; did the good out weigh the bad? Will your ex agree with that answer? Do not go after an ex who was mentally or physically abusive to you, even if there were good times. Move on in life instead.

If after careful analysis of the relationship you still feel you want to pursue getting your ex back, that’s great. In reality, few relationships are not worthy of saving. Sometimes one or the other of you just does not realize there has to be give and take until it is too late. Maybe you or they have learned and will work harder next time.

I hope you have not been pestering your ex to get back together prior to reading this, but if you have – or are – STOP! Begging and pleading just make you appear pathetic and undesirable. You want to appear like you have your act together, not falling apart.

You need to put aside all past grievances. No score settling or score keeping, you want to start fresh with every advantage. Let your ex know that you are not holding grudges and want to do your best to treat him or her with the utmost of respect at all times.

Since you want to start anew, wait a short time if you have recently encountered your ex before trying to get together again in any way.

Once you do decide to make contact, try for something simple – you don’t even have to call it a date. Don’t tell all of your mutual friends about getting your ex back, either. Just let them know that you are happy, positive, looking forward to moving on in life with whoever you determine is the right person to do that with.

The first time back together could just be for coffee or at a snack kiosk in a mall or park. Sometimes there is something of hers/his you need to “return” to them. In the process of the time together always direct the conversation at things they are interested in and will make them happy.

You may even just want to give them a copy of a favorite photo of the two of you as a remembrance. This will remind them of one of the good times together and can reignite positive feelings toward you.

Start simple, do not push hard, never beg.

Getting your ex back is a process, not a task. You want the result to be long lasting and lead to a happy relationship, right?

Do it right and avoid the mistakes most people make. The best advice I can give you is to take a look at The Magic of Making Up, it has helped with thousands of relationships around the world and could help yours too.

Often someone will ask if it is possible to stop divorce, and if so, how can I stop my divorce? All relationship issues are emotional but I think divorce is one that tears at the heart more than many of the others.

There are so many questions we really need to ask just to get enough background to move forward:

• Did the two of you rush into marriage?
• Was the marriage ever really considered successful?
• How long have you been married?
• Are there children in the family?

And these are just for starters.

There are times when two people really are incompatible and maybe should not have ever been married. But when one of them is passionate enough about the marriage to ask “how can I stop my divorce” then I have to think that at least one spouse feels the marriage is worth saving.

So let’s go from there and presume that there can be a loving marriage. What is the next step?

What do the two of you have in common, besides a home and maybe some children? Do you share the same interest all? Are there predominant hobbies in either of your lives that pretty much over shadow everything else, perhaps even your mate?

If that is the case, then is it your hobby? Is there any way to get your spouse involved in it with you – have you ever asked or invited them into that part of your world? Maybe you have been excluding him or her from your golf or fishing, or shopping and antiquing.

Married couples do not have to share every interest or hobby, but things certainly go better when you have common interests and ways of spending time together where you are doing something enjoyable.

Maybe you do not really have any hobbies and perhaps your spouse does. Is there some way you could sincerely show some interest and see if there is a common ground there? If there is, any time you spend doing that you should try to be upbeat, happy and look for opportunities for showing affection.

Over time, couples can simply drift apart, and if they drift long enough one will get frustrated enough to start talking about divorce; maybe they would never even go through with it. Do, however, take such talk seriously as perhaps even that is why you are reading this.

When drifting has separated two people in a marriage, you can sometimes stop divorce with just a little effort to see where your spouse is in life and “paddle” over toward them. Often, your effort will reignite some dormant flame in your spouse and encourage them to “paddle” towards you and you can meet half way.

Other times, only one spouse is really willing to make the effort. Go ahead and be that person anyway and make the effort.

Sure, you can try marriage counseling, but that is expensive and not always effective, either. Counseling will have a greater chance if one or both of you have already been making a serious effort to show your mate your interest in them, their life and your marriage.

Everyone enjoys knowing that someone is sincerely interested in them, especially in a romantic way. Do not overdue it right off the bat, always be sincere and never do anything just for show. I am not implying you should be a doormat to them either. You can still be your own person, but be thinking how your life and your actions impact your spouse. In short, be considerate.

There can be long road ahead when you have to stop divorce and heal a broken marriage. What I have tried to do here is give you a good start with some honest advice I think will help.

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Many guys have lost a wife or girlfriends love, maybe even break up or divorce, yet still have strong feelings for her. They want desperately to know how to make her fall in love with me again. If she has not left yet, they want to prevent it; get her back if she has.

So if you are in that category you are not alone. There is help and it can be possible to get her back or keep her from leaving you. The question is how committed are you to doing that?

Anytime we are in a situation where emotions run high we risk making hasty and not so well thought out decisions. Sometimes it is best to be able to step away from the situation, avoid any rash or angry behavior and just let the situation cool off.

That could mean that stepping away from the situation for a while is called for. If you are married that may be less appropriate, but you do need to make sure you do not act inappropriately or in any way even lose dignity over the situation.

No matter how she may be acting, you want to make sure that you are not doing something that will count against you and reduce your chance to make her fall in love with you again. Women do not want to be attached to a loser and you certainly do not want to end up before a judge over your actions.

How to Make Her Fall In Love With Me Again

What happened in the relationship, do you know why she no longer loves you? Perhaps she told you or gave you a clue; many women will not.

But as you know people tend to get bored with something, even something terrific, after a period of time. Just watch kids with toys after Christmas; what the child cannot put down on Christmas day might be forgotten in a closet by Spring.

Or even that adorable puppy that brings initial excitement. After a few months of taking care of it the puppy is not near so fawned over as when it first came into the house.

That happens with relationships, too. That does not mean we need to change out partners, it just means that the relationship moves to a different level. Unfortunately, that level often brings with it a tendency to take each other for granted and not show some of the common courtesies that we did when first dating.

Do not think of yourself as a victim, nor as a loser just because she does not seem to love you currently. On the contrary, continue to take care of yourself: workout, eat right, get enough sleep, hang out with friends that will cheer you up.

Try to get up each morning and think about positive things that will make you smile, put you in a good mood and make people want to be around you. Avoid moping and complaining, that gets old quick, friends will abandon you and strangers shun you.

You do not want your wife or girlfriend thinking you are just waiting around for them; you are not. You want to make them love you again and sometimes people want what they cannot have – or in this case, what is not immediately available to them.

Any time your paths cross, be sincere with a smile and be polite. You do not need to bring up the relationship right away, that can come later. Let’s get her to like you again first. If you are married and living together, make sure you not only do your household chores – the right way! – but see if you can help her out too.

Think back about the things you did and talked about when you were dating and what you were like then. I know life might suck now with the job, bills and problems with the kids perhaps, but concentrate on your blessings, however corny that might sound it really does work.

Turn your thinking around and think about others. Most people really feel best when concentrating on helping others instead of their own problems. Eliminate any time wasters in your life and put the time to more productive use. Maybe that means turning off the TV and playing basketball with the kids.

We are doing two important things here:

1. We are getting you out of a depression “hole” if you are in one
2. By focusing on others we are keeping you out of that “hole”

Consider this for a minute. Who do you know in life that is:

• Clean and well kept
• Always ready with a smile
• Always helping others
• Never moping or complaining
• Spends time with their kids, if they have them

Anyone come to mind? Chances are, they are a popular person. And probably popular with the opposite sex too, regardless of how good looking they are.

Now if you work toward that, and you are a happier person because of it, isn’t it worth the extra effort?

How about your girlfriend or wife, how will she view you? Will you still be coming here looking for answers on “how to make her fall in love with me again”? Probably not (but you are welcome here anyway!).

This is not the whole story, it is really just a primer to get you started.

If you are really serious about finding out “how to make her fall in love with me again“, then I highly recommend you take a look at a great resource. It’s called the Magic of Making Up and it has now sold over 50,000 copies.

It can change your life, save your marriage or get your girlfriend back. I highly recommend it.