Treat Your Husband Right And Reap The Rewards
Treat others as you wish to be treated – The Golden Rule. That works in life in general but more specifically in your marriage. Treat your husband like a King and how do you suppose he might view the woman in his life other than as a Queen?
Would you like to be treated like a Queen?
You know that things go better in the house when your man is happy, but what does it take to make him happy? Amazingly enough, a few simple things can go a long way toward making your husband a happy man in love with his wife. Being shown disrespect will surely not cause him to be happy, you may even find out if he has an angry side.
Maybe you have seen the movie My Big Fat Greek Wedding. In that movie you have a fairly happy long term marriage between a husband and a wife. Some may ridicule this example by stating the the wife was “stuck” at home in the role of housewife. Well, maybe yes and maybe no, but she had it pretty good.
And one comment she makes to great laughter in the theatre is: “The man may be the head (of the family) but the woman is the neck; and the neck can turn the head any direction she pleases!”
This woman knew that her husband wanted to FEEL in control even when he really wasn’t. And at those times, EVERYONE was happy. The woman had control, so she was happy; the man THOUGHT he was in control, and that made him happy.
Don’t take this the wrong way, we are not talking about deceiving your husband here at all. Just treat him like a King and see if he doesn’t start wanting to do whatever is in his POWER to make his Queen happy!
So here are some ideas to treat your husband like a King that cost you nothing and can end up with you being crowned a Queen:
- Give your husband your loyalty. Loyalty is perhaps the most important thing your man expects from you. Don’t sit around with girlfriends talking bad about him; so many marriages and relationships have been simply DESTROYED by this type of behavior. Instead, lift him up continually in your words, thoughts, and actions. It will make a world of difference for you and for him. Would you rather your friends thought you were so stupid as to marry an idiot or so savvy as to marry a King?
- Show your husband respect. While respect is similar to loyalty, it often happens in private with just the two of you. When you respect him, you will likely be earning his respect in return. Know that when you SHOW him your respect, you’re giving him the exact type of affirmation of your love he needs in order to remain confident in your love for him and his role in the family.
- Stop NAGGING him. Oh my gosh, PLEASE to not nag. Has it ever gained anything that it did not cost you equally in rift of the relationship? Men hate nagging more than you know. Not only does it make him FEEL disrespected, it also shows him that you’re not respecting the many things he does to take care of his family. He views nagging as simply pointing out the ways you think he’s failing or letting you down. Most of the time, it makes him that much more determined not to do the thing you want accomplished and it creates a vicious cycle of unhappiness all around. You attract more bees with honey than vinegar! Find another way to accomplish your goals if asking once isn’t getting it done. This is just something that cannot be emphasized enough. Nagging will earn you the title of “my old lady” when what you really want is “my Queen”.
- Let your husband know how you feel. How long has it been since you’ve made the effort to tell your man how glad you are that he’s in your life? How lucky you were to land a catch like him? Let him know how many ways he makes your life better. Tell him just how much you admire and respect him. Flatter him. Boost his ego; you know, like you did BEFORE you were married! Everyone likes praise, Kings especially so.
Treat Him Like A King Is Win-Win
Marriage is NOT a zero sum game where in order to build him up you have to tear yourself down. Quite the opposite. Tear him down and you come down with him. Build him up and you both go up together.
Do not let children or problems with work, money or anything else prevent you from remembering what your husband does for you and telling him all about it.
Change does not happen overnight. A King need not be crowned in a weekend. Start simple with a positive attitude and understanding there may be setbacks along the way.
But slowly and steadily build him up, treat your husband like a King reigning in his castle and see if you do not find yourself sitting on a nice throne of your own right next to him.
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